The top 5 regrets of the dying.

I found this really great article. This woman has written a book about the regrets of the dying.

Read the full article hear:
http://www.inspirationandchai.com/Regrets-of-the-Dying.html

People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learnt never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them. 

When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five: 

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. 

This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. 

It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.


2. I wish I didn’t work so hard. 

This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence. 

By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle. 


3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result. 

We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win. 


4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends. 

Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying. 

It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships. 


5. I wish that I had let myself be happier. 

This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again. 

When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying. 


Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.

Why work-life balance isn’t working

I have to say I like the Gallup-approach about well-being and the studies and research they are doing around that topic. This article explains well their approach…

http://gmj.gallup.com/content/152204/Why-Work-Life-Balance-Isn-Balanced.aspx?ref=more#1

Sitting quiet and alone…

Great article from zenhabits about learning to sit alone…

Sitting quiet and alone and wisdom will arise - great article from zenhabitshttp://zenhabits.net/alone/

Health Benefits of interval training

I have been following the interval training philosophy for quite some while. This article from Dr. Doug McGuff is really one of the best explanations if read so far. Read this if you want to learn more about the science behind interval training and the health benefits.

http://fitness.mercola.com/sites/fitness/archive/2012/01/06/dr-doug-mcguff-on-exercise.aspx?e_cid=20120106_FNL_art_1

Source: fitness.mercola.com

Break Out! Take your work outside.

I found this great article on Worksnug.com:

“Do you find that your work ability kind of sucks in the summer? There’s actually a great way to increase your summer work productivity, creativity, and take advantage of that great weather!

  • But, you say, I can’t see my computer screen outside in the sun.
  • But, you say, I can’t get wifi in the middle of a park.

That’s okay.

Last year we interviewed work futurist Anthony Townsend (IFTF) about how to Break Out of your work routine.

Anthony co-hosted a festival called Break Out! in New York City in 2009, which showed people how to use the space around them to immerse themselves in their work - mentally and physically. And, how to do it with your colleagues too!

Here are five ways Anthony suggests you can Break Out this summer:

  1. Up the creativity of your planning sessions by moving them into a high energy environment, like a point of transit. Take your mobiles and wear headsets, call into a conference, if you’re worried you won’t be able to hear each other.
  2. Energise meetings by making them mobile: all of you don’t need to be sat in front of your laptops during the meeting, just one of you does. Set up one team member in the office on a computer to take notes and add value to the conversation. The rest of you: get cycling - and don’t forget to pair your cycling helmets with wireless headsets!
  3. Source new ideas by ‘bumping into’ other people in your workspace. Make the lobby of your building a social space. Put comfy chairs there, make sure the wifi reaches, buy some biscuits and bring down some coffee. Coworking with other companies in the same building can strengthen bonds and lead to more business.
  4. Reclaim the space outside of your office building! Get some pillows or folding chairs and tables, borrow some sidewalk chalk and scrawl “open cowork space”. Dangle your router out of the window or plug in your dongle.
  5. Blow out the cobwebs and work in inspirational places. You’re stuck in a rut, or perhaps your whole team is - have everybody meet up in a space with an inspiring view. And don’t drive there, walk there - and not directly there, but ‘have a walk’ to loosen up and see something new. Plenty of art galleries and museums have wifi cafés these days: declare you will all work from a gallery for the afternoon after checking out the Magritte exhibit (‘cause nothing gets you looking at things cockeyed like a surrealist painter).”

Is sitting killing you?

Sitting is Killing You
Via: Medical Billing And Coding

Quote of the day:

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.

- Winston Churchill

One thing at a time…

Those who start a hundred different themes
are unable to achieve even one success.
These crazy-minded individuals are
like old dogs always roaming the town. #OrdinaryWisdom

How to thrive in the current state of the economy

This is a great video by Tony Robbins about how to thrive in the current state of the economy.  Current statistics say that 65% of Americans think that the best time of their life is behind them. That’s alarming. Tony gives 4 clues on how to take control of your current life and put your mind and focus towards a compelling future. 

1. Feed your mind everyday. Focus and train your mind with something that will help you grow and strengthen your skills and knowledge.

2. Strengthen your body. 

3. Find a role model or someone who is a good example of how to thrive in challenging times.

4. Help someone who is a worse situation than you are.

Watch the full video here:

http://www.tonyrobbins.com/laborday2011/index.html?ec=138706c

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Ordinary Wisdom

The supreme wealth is generosity. The supreme happiness is a joyous mind. The supreme ornament is learning. And the supreme friend is a undeceitful person. #OrdinaryWisdom